My thoughts on Marriage

It literally sucks to be born in a family where arrange marriages are the norm and not love marriages. Apparently, I have turn to an age where I should either be committed to someone or engaged to be married not my choice you see.  I don’t understand why are my friends so excited about getting married so soon. Like, come on, we are just 23 years old. What have I achieved in life? Is one of the questions that pops up in my mind from time to time. I don’t think marriage is an achievement though it might seem to some people.

If you believe it or not but Marriage is a big turning point in one’s life.  It probes you to become an all-rounder in your life’s innings.  It’s not a bad thing to become an all-rounder as such but you need a little bit of experience before it starts or is handed over to you.  An experienced cricketer like “Yuvraj Singh” has tried himself in all positions as a bowler, fielder and batsman. He grew simultaneously in each aspect to know that he is an all-rounder.

People like me with little background knowledge about life and marriage need time and experience. I cannot multi-task like my other friends who could fall in love and study together. I wanted to take everything one by one. Study first and then love was something I wanted to do. Not imposed love by parents just because you are of the AGE. Now, I think I should have learned how to multi-task atleast I would have gained some experience in the area of love. Even my peers who wanted to take it slow like me want to get married now. They are looking for their prospective spouses as they don't want to be late in life.

How do you explain being late in life? Like, how is it late? You’re just 23 or 24. You haven’t enjoyed life as such and getting burdened with responsibilities at this age is quite common in Indian families. The only time you can taste life at this point is with friends and by being single (my opinion). Going on adventures, playing games, watching movies, etc. Because, after this the only adventure you would have is either dealing with kids or finances. The special time that you had with your friends would just be printed in your book of memories somewhere in the attic of your mind. Well, I don’t deny that a smile on your child’s face will just brighten up your day. But, why so early? Why get married when you are just 24 and in a year or two your in-laws/parents will start pressurizing you and your spouse to step it up. You know what I mean by step it up.

So, my question is how does one know that he/she is ready to take on his/her 2^nd innings at this young age of mere 23?