Sixth Rule Of Love: Loneliness and solitude are two different things. When you are lonely, it is easy to delude yourself into believing that you are on the right path. Solitude is better for us, as it means being alone without feeling lonely. But, eventually it is best to find a person, the person who will be your mirror. Remember, only in another person's heart can you truly see yourself and the presence of God within you.
When in doubt use dictionary or Google!
Lonely (adj) means sad because one has no friends or company whereas Solitude means the state or situation of being alone or in a remote place.
Now, they almost mean the same thing, don't they? But, this book says they are not.
However, it is so weird that when I feel lonely that's what I tell myself. Being lonely is better than being in a bad relationship. When you are alone whatever happens to you are responsible for it.
So, that made me think I am always on the right path. There was one drawback with this I would not feel any emotions towards others. You see, when you tend to be lonely you don't want to be with anyone else even if it is just being a friend to some one. I used to think that being lonely is the best thing. Emotions don't effect you so no pain.
This book told me to be in solitude till you meet your mirror. Have you thought about being alone but not lonely? Only and only Love can make us feel that we are in solitude as in we might be alone but there is some one somewhere who loves me and I love them back. When you love some one you open yourself to them. They know about your little quirks, your fears, about you. So, when you do something wrong that person will be there to tell you that this is wrong or this is not meant for you. They will always show you the mirror with their honesty.
Solitude is...
Solitude is not the absence of Love, but its complement
Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life.
In solitude, they will discover the love that might otherwise have arrived unnoticed.
In solitude, they will understand and respect the love that left them.
In solitude, they will be able to decide whether it is worth asking that lost love to come back or if they should simply let it go and set off along a new path.
In solitude, they will learn that saying 'No' doesn't always lack of generosity and that saying 'Yes' is not always a virtue.
For those who feel oppressed by solitude, it is important to remember that at life's most significant moments we are always alone.
Just as Love is the divine condition, so solitude is the human condition. And, for those who understand the miracle of life, those two states peacefully coexist.
~Paulo Coelho
(Manuscript found in Accra)
Love incessantly, and feel the love you get. Be thankful for the people around who love you. We all need someone to show us the mirror so that we can feel every bit of emotion and in that emotion every bit of God.
Take Home Message: There will be a few in your life who make you feel loved amongst whom you are as comfortable as a baby in his mothers' arms. Those are your mirrors, love them and you will never enjoy being lonely again.
